Money or Friends

Open topic | November 3rd, 2007 | 3 Comments

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I’d like to think about this post as response to John Chow’s The power of association post where John explains how important could be to hang out with people that have the same business interest as yours which is very right as entertaining with people of the same niche business can help you expand your knowledge on that niche, share ideas maybe or even get hooked up to expand your business.

He also pointed out an argument which many often happens between you as internet “addicted” and your friends or relatives that maybe have less knowledge about internet, the argument I am talking about is the one when friends maybe laugh, make jokes or even simply think that you are a dreamer with open eyes that thinks that can make money online. I am sure it has happened to you too, it happened to me with my brother, when he was making jokes that I would never be able to make decent money online and not even think about making a living from a online business. I am not sure if his jokes were more to cool me off and in other words tell me to find a real job or he was totally ignoring the possibility to make money online, if he was ignoring it than he is very wrong (and I proved that to him). Within less than a month since launched my xhtml coding services website I managed to bring $600 with only $90 of investment.

But lets get back to John’s post, in a certain part of the post John advices his readers that sometimes is much better to spend less time or not frequent any longer your friends if you want to be successful in your business. But to explain better what he said I would rather cite the author.

Have you ever noticed that successful people hang around other successful people? Birds of feather really do flock together. If you’re a beer drinking, foul mouth talking wage slave, then chances are, all your friends are beer drinking, foul mouth talking wage salves as well. This is not by accident. You attract to you what you are.

One of the biggest barriers to success is quite often the people you hang around with. They laugh at your crazy dreams and say you’re wasting time trying to make money online. Come and have a beer instead. More often than not, you’ll let your friends keep you down. If you want to break out of the rat race, then you need to stop spending so much time with your current buddies and start associating with people who have the same dreams and goals as you.

Don’t let money blind you

The reason why I am responding with a post is that on John Chow’s post I saw some great points, it is true that associating with successful busines but I don’t agree with the fact that you have to ignore your friends, even tho they are making jokes or call you a dreamer. I can’t imagine putting aside my friends with which I am having a laugh, partying or doing whatever comes in our mind (cough cough) or have shared the same dinner just because I should hang out with someone that doesn’t even know to clean up his nose but is very good at making money online.

Whenever people have told to me that money can’t buy you happiness I have always responded that they had no clue where to do shopping, but with all honesty bring your self in such a low grade and get blind from money to even ignore your friends just so you could hang out with a money maker and hope that one day you could be making as much money as he does makes no sense.

I believe that part of being successful in a business is to be happy inside, to go at work or get online happy and feel full of energy because you know that you have real friends whom you can call whenever you need their help, or because you have had a great evening in a pub with your friends, or be able to leave a person close to your money and be sure that nothing will be missing instead of having a big money maker that waits on your first wrong step to get the chair off from under you (cough, you get what I mean). Don’t get me wrong, I have said at least twice in this post that associating with other successful business holders is a great move, what I am saying is that dumping your friends once you start making money or rather once you become greedy enough for money is what I don’t agree with.

Thats me, but I am curious to know if you would chose money above your friends and if you think that in one day there is enough time to be a part of your business and hang with your friends as well.

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3 Responses to “Money or Friends”
  1. John Chow says:

    In the real world, it won’t be you who will be dumping your friends. It will be your friends who will be dumping you because you are moving on. You need to take this beyond your current situation to understand what I’m about.

    When you’re making 10 to 20 times what your friends are making. When you don’t have to deal with rush hour traffic. When your house cost more than what they’ll make in a lifetime. You’re going to fine they will stop inviting you to come to the pub and have a beer.

    As long as you’re still withing “striking distance,” everything is still cool. However, if you keep going, you’ll understand what I’m talking about.

  2. Hey John and thanks for taking your time to leave a comment.

    What you say it does make sense, especially if we are talking about rubbish and jealous friends, which I hope my friends are not like that, especially because I have grown together with them and money has never been a question even tho I am earning twice more than what they earn at this time just from two sites and the xhtml coding service is the third.

    On your post someone made a good comment (was most probably made after I wrote this post). The guy stated that once you will earn money you will change standard of life which your friends would not be able to follow with, and that makes sense.

    Why I am saying that money has never been a question between me and my friends could be the fact that we are from different cultures where friendship really counts a lot, it could be the fact that when we go to a pub no matter how much we spend we divide the sum instead of paying each one of his own. Hence why I wrote this post, because in your post the way it was formated is not the same way you commented.

    Anyway I just hope what you are saying is not true in this case 😉

  3. Cervast says:

    When the time you need money, friend can’t help you. People who owned u don’t return you. Everything bad happen to you. So in the end, what do you choose? If your life turned bad totally and people who owned u say i already in a deep shit. And in the end he say, you can only blame yourself. So i believe friend is important when you have money. Friend is not important when you have no money. So i rather have money than have friend now.